The 13-Step Circle is a structured, small-group journey for people deconstructing from Jehovah's Witnesses, Latter-Day Saints, Seventh-Day Adventists, and Christian Fundamentalist High Control Groups — led by someone who knows the architecture of what was done to you.
13 sessions · 20-26 hours · Maximum 6 people per Circle · Zoom
"Something feels wrong. You have known it for a long time.
You just have not been allowed to publically expore it by saying it out loud."
This is NOT the space for people who are blissfully still attending (PIMI), it is for those quietly questioning from the inside (PIMQ), or those still physically inside, mentally checked out, but feeling trapped (PIMO), or those who have left -last month or last decade- who need support (POMO). Regardless, you deserves a safe space for support. Not for debate. Not a conversion. We will NEVER tell you what to think, what to believe, or what to do. We are a circle of people who understand, with tools, guided by someone who knows exactly what tools were used to stop you from thinking freely and indoctrinate you.
You go through the motions. You say the right things. But privately, the questions will not stop. You have never felt safe enough to say them out loud. This is that safe space.
You left the group — and lost almost everything with it. Community, family, certainty, identity. You are free and you have no idea what that means yet. You are not alone in that.
The group is gone but the fear-based thoughts (or the guilt) are not. The inner critic still sounds exactly like an elder. You have built a new life but the old wiring runs underneath it. This work goes there.
You are not looking for someone to tell you what to believe instead. You are looking for the freedom to reach your own conclusions, in your own time, without anyone's agenda in the room.
The belief is gone but the life built around it is still entirely intact — family and community would be devastated. You are past questioning. You are calculating the cost of honesty and authenticity.
A circle has no head. No hierarchy. No seat of authority. Every person who sits in a Circle is equidistant from the centre. This is a direct and intentional counter-structure to everything you experienced in a High Control Group — where authority always flowed downward and obedience always flowed up.
The Circle holds four people at a time. Small enough that no one disappears. Large enough that you hear voices other than your own — people from different traditions who recognise the same mechanisms, the same fear, the same relief of finally naming it. The me too moment that happens when an ex-JW hears a ex-LDS and ex-Scientologist describe the same thought-stopping technique is something no one-on-one session can produce.
And when the 13 sessions are complete, the Circle does not end. It becomes yours — a peer-led community that continues without a facilitator, because the most powerful thing a Circle can demonstrate is that you do not need an authority to hold it together.
Naming what happened to you. Mapping where your beliefs came from. Identifying the specific control mechanisms — shunning, love bombing, information control, thought-stopping — and seeing them clearly, perhaps for the first time, as mechanisms rather than truth.
Looking honestly at what you were taught. Building your Cognitive Dissonance Inventory. Learning to separate fear from genuine conviction — perhaps the most transformative distinction in the entire Circle. Examining the information bubble you were kept inside.
Mourning what was lost and what was done to you. The community, the certainty, the cosmology, the relationships, the childhood — these losses deserve to be fully grieved. Anger is validated as an intelligent response. And the crushing self-blame that comes with waking up is gently, carefully dismantled.
Building a self that belongs to you. Excavating your genuine values — the ones that were always yours, underneath the installed ones. Rebuilding community. And constructing a personal worldview arrived at through free inquiry, not through someone else's agenda — including this one.
Living as a free thinker. And handing the Circle back to its members — launching the ongoing Alumni Circle, a peer-led community that continues after the sessions end, because belonging should never again come with conditions attached.
90-120 minutes each. Maximum six people per Circle. Facilitated with structure, questions, and space.
A personal questionnaire to ensure the Circle is the right fit for where you are right now.
A personal WhatsApp message after every session with your reflection invitation and homework.
Four portable self-directed tools — The Work, The Hand Tool, NVC, The Three Businesses — that belong to you permanently.
When the 13 sessions close, the Circle continues as a peer-led community — yours to govern, free of charge, indefinitely.
What is shared in the Circle stays in the Circle. A formal Circle Agreement is made in Session 1 by every member.
Four portable tools drawn from Byron Katie, Marshall Rosenberg, and Breaking Beliefs — designed to work between sessions, in quiet moments, or whenever an old fear-based thought comes knocking. Sent to you after Session 4. Available now to explore.
If you are still inside your group, if you left in the last six days or six months, if you are in active crisis — a shunning, a family rupture, a judicial committee proceeding — the Circle may not be where you start. You may need a contained, private space first.
The one-on-one session is a single hour, just the two of us on Zoom. No agenda. No programme. No pressure to go anywhere next. We will map where you are, assess what you need, and take one small step forward. Nothing more than that is required.
Pay once, upfront, and save — then show up for yourself thirteen times.
Pay-per-session rate:
R600 × 13 = R7,800
Full Circle upfront: R3,900
Places in each Circle are limited to six people. Once a Circle is full, you will be held on the waitlist for the next available opening. Events are on the website. Enrolment confirms your place and your weblink will be sent immediately.
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"The most liberating moment is not when you stop believing. It is when you realise that the doubt you were taught to be ashamed of was, all along, your own mind trying to protect you."Freedom from Indoctrination — 13-Step Circle
You have been carrying this alone for long enough. There are people who understand — not because they read about it, but because they lived it. The Circle is waiting.
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The Freedom from Indoctrination 13-Step Circle is a structured facilitation process, not clinical therapy.
The facilitator is not a licensed psychologist or therapist.
Participants experiencing acute mental health symptoms will be referred to an appropriate professional.
This programme does not advocate for or against any religious tradition, belief system, or worldview.
